Words such as "shopping therapy" and "shopaholism" have become part of the modern lexicon. The Passion for Shopping is featured in books and movies, and the image of the cute "Anonymous Shopaholic" is tinged with sympathy and sympathy. Whereas oniomania is not as harmless as it seems. Continuing the topic of addiction to shopping, we will tell you what to do if you recognize yourself in this image, and how to return from sales and discounts to your own life.
Alien signal
It happens that you analyze your purchases for the house and you realize: this tablecloth is very similar to my mother's, the service is exactly like that of a friend, and the rug bought yesterday was spied on in a magazine. And tomorrow a keen eye will notice some other detail at a party, and their feet will be carried to the interior boutique. A sober look at recent acquisitions will only upset: they are completely incompatible with each other and do not give the desired result. First of all, because we are looking for the wrong place for our beloved apartment.
The problem of such "interceptors" of alien waves, as a rule, is to try to find … yourself. Only this search is carried out "by typing". Low self-esteem does not allow focusing on the inner, hence the attempt to find oneself in the outer, using "peeped" from the outside, be it clothes or interior items. It seems as if you have lost yourself and are trying to build some kind of image, spying on successful ideas from others. In the beginning, you bought real estate like from others, then you started filling it in as prompted.
If this is your case, you need to "return" to yourself and understand why this "loss" occurred. After all, self-esteem does not drop suddenly and for no reason. Perhaps, on the low self-worth, which, like many psychological problems originating in childhood, was superimposed on some events or relationships that led to what we have today.
Take time to sit back with your favorite drink and remember what you love and what you want. Focus on yourself, your real needs and desires. Do you like birdsong at dawn? Let this be the starting point for decorating your home. A small semblance of a winter garden, a small bubbling fountain with a waterfall and smooth pebbles sparkling with wet sides … Its calm murmur goes well with the silhouettes of birds - figurines or prints on textiles. Turn on the disc "Sounds of Nature" - and you will not notice how weekdays will end and weekends will come, with picnics, meeting the dawn, enjoying the extraordinary trills of birds. And you will not be at all up to the shopping race.
And more … Psychologists are often expected to provide unusual and fresh solutions. But a long-known and therefore seemingly banal exercise can help. Write your strengths and weaknesses in two columns. And you will see that the first is much more than the second.
Money burn
It happens otherwise: you do not care at all what, how and with whom is placed. But any more or less decent income seems to "burn hands" - so I want to spend them at least on something. Such people with condemnation are called spenders, not realizing that they need help and understanding much more than just another notation on a monetary topic.
Sometimes oniomania is superimposed on the lack of a complete financial picture of the family's life. If one family member pays for housing, utilities, groceries, and the other (for example, an adult child) has no idea what a queue at a savings bank is, of course, "distortions" in the family budget are possible. But the most important thing is precisely the psychological side of the issue. Any waste that is useless from an objective point of view is nothing more than compensation for some unfulfilled need: love and care, vivid impressions, a feeling of full life full of interesting events.
Basically, mindless spending is giving up on a dream. Each of us has a dream (own house by the sea, travel, education, own business), which, of course, requires capital investment. And let it take some time to realize these goals. But you can make a "piggy bank", real or virtual, in the form of a bank account, and put the very amount that "burns" there.
Of course, advice to a shopaholic to save money sounds as if the doctor, instead of a long prescription, simply wished the patient a speedy recovery. It's all about the approach. Any goal needs visualization, so it's worth working on its design. For example, you can draw a silhouette of a tropical island on a piggy bank and paint over it as the required amount accumulates.
When saving money in a bank account, you can simply hang a board cut out of plywood in the shape of, say, a country house on the wall and paint it with bright paint. Do not forget to write on the blackboard the percentage of money collected for the purchase of a dacha - 10%, 50%, 75% …
Such contributions will soon make it possible to make his dream come true, and the "spender" will spend the earned money on what is really important and necessary for him. Even if the savings are not enough to start a business, they can go to specialized courses or something else that will make the dream more attainable. When new, positive worries, new filling of life appear, you will no longer want to “extinguish” the melancholy in the store and compensate for the warmth with a vase from the sale.
Source: overseas property portal Discount-House
